iterator_to requires that the object be in the list, which is sometimes
not the case when processing a commit which removed the active line or a
selected line. To handle this, add a checked version that returns
Events.end() when it is not in the list rather than crashing.
The grid needs to be able to map AssDialogue * to a row number, and just
storing it in the AssDialogue is nearly strictly better than a std::map
mapping events to rows. Probably will be of use elsewhere as well.
